This myth of the gentleman getting the lady is often reinforced by TV drama shows, woman’s magazines and romantic Hollywood movies, where the nice man always gets the lady in the end.
When a guy believes that the world actually works in the same way that he sees it working on TV or in the movies, he then tries it and gets rejected by most of the women (including the very lady-like women) he tries it on.
When that happens, he might begin to think that women no longer like men who know how to be a gentleman. Yet, that just isn’t true.
Women are still as attracted to gentlemen as they have ever been. However, if a gentleman is not able to first create an attraction between himself and a lady, then his good manners are just that, good manners…and nothing more.
She might appreciate the fact that he’s a good guy and has really good intentions with her, but she just isn’t going to be feeling much or any sexual desire. These days, most relationships start with kissing and sex, not long, drawn out courtships that go on for months and years.
In the past, a woman had to save virginity for marriage and she also had to find herself a man who could support her. She couldn’t earn her own money and the society around her didn’t allow her to have sex before marriage.
When she got married, she was stuck with that man for life, so she had to take her time and find a real gentleman who could support her.
Women can now earn their own money and have sex with whoever they like before settling down. They don’t even have to settle down if they don’t want to.
If a woman isn’t happy with the man she has chosen (regardless of whether she is a lady, a party girl or a girl next door type), she is allowed to leave him and find another guy.
To save all the hassle of going through a lengthy dating process, most modern women now start off with kissing and sex and see where it goes from there. For example: A recent study found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date and 70% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand before.
In other words, you don’t need to be a gentleman and court a woman for months or years before you get a chance with her. Start with sexual attraction, kiss her, have sex with and then begin a relationship if you want to.
If you want to be a gentleman to her while you are going through that process, that will simply be seen as a bonus to her. She will feel lucky to have met a good guy like yourself who not only knows how to make her feel attracted, but has the classy manners of gentleman. It will be like winning the dating jackpot for her.